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December 11, 2021  

”A hero is someone who understands the responsibility that comes with his freedom”. -Bob Dylan

It is hard to raise a child. Even in the best of times. A girl grows to be a mother; transmitter of culture, first educator of the next generation. A nation, it is said,finds it hard to rise above the moral acuity of its women. A great responsibility, which sadly is lost upon many, as time progresses. A boy grows to lead, provide, protect, and sacrifice his life if need be. His success and resources are to benefit everyone else in a society. Sadly in today’s world, this is lost even more often. Only a father, can adequately raise a boy to become a man. 2 things usually happen when poorly raised as a boy.

-The first is ”Hyper destruction”. The male quest for perfection, and the competitive drive and aggression, if poorly channeled, as we see upon the breakdown of civilisation(such as in war), leads to tragedy. Crime runs rampant, and the better angels of our nature have their very existence questioned. The human condition is not protected, and the uneducated man becomes a predatory fiend, instead of a protective friend.

-The second is ”Hyper passivity”. This we see more often daily. When this great male energy which gave us space travel, skyscrapers, machinery, sewage system, the internet, the harnessing of electric power, the discovery of continents, the founding of cities, etc… is poorly educated, many, fearing the previous outcome, seek to almost behaviourally and culturally ”castrate” men and boys from a young age. This leads to feelings of humiliation and emasculation. Achievements stagnate, frustrations occur in everyone concerned, and as every criminal in peace-time would attest, a humiliated masculinity, is a dangerous masculinity. Ask any school-shooter. A ”compensatory” mindset in the ”castrated” male ensues. Sadly many passive fathers, clueless mothers, and a well-meaning but inadequate educational system, produces such males. They are harmless, then after feelings of inadequacy reach a tipping point, they explode and implode, leading to grief and destruction affecting themselves and others.

Achilles, from Homer’s ”The Iliad” is a character than spans this spectrum. The name itself, is telling. ἄχος (áchos) “pain, sorrow,” and λαός (laós) “people, nation”, resulting in Akhí-lāu̯os “he who has the people distressed” or “he whose people have distress”. The pain or sorrow of the people is a theme raised numerous times in the Iliad and frequently by Achilles himself.

The name thus obtains a double meaning in the poem: when the hero is functioning rightly, he brings distress and pain to the enemy, but when wrongly, his own people/nation/men get the grief of his deeds. The poem is indeed partly about the misdirection of anger/masculine drive, as pertaining to action and leadership. Pain and grief shall occur. But they should not be misplaced, like anything else in life.

This brings us to the third option. The result of a well educated man; A Hero! Characterised by; Propriety. Morality. Responsibility. Accountability. Temperance. Action. When a male holds these, among others, in his character and channels his drive, he brings joy and light to what/whom is deserving, and distress/grief when required.

If the first destructive option is a hyena, and the second weak but dangerous option is a jackal, this third heroic option is, without putting too fine a point on it, a lion. Silent as a mouse if necessary, and a thundering roar should the need arise. Propriety!

No aimless roaming without education or direction, and not curtailed/castrated nor humiliated. Channeled, driven and educated. Such is a leonine hero. Such is expected of every son of Man…

 ”He is My true follower who, if he come to a valley of pure gold, will pass straight through it aloof as a cloud, and will neither turn back, nor pause. Such a man is, assuredly, of Me. From his garment the Concourse on high can inhale the fragrance of sanctity…. And if he met the fairest and most comely of women, he would not feel his heart seduced by the least shadow of desire for her beauty. Such an one, indeed, is the creation of spotless chastity. Thus instructeth you the Pen of the Ancient of Days, as bidden by your Lord, the Almighty, the All-Bountiful.”

-Bahá’u’lláh

August 18, 2015  

Great Expectations

There is something to be said about having high expectations be placed upon an individual, whether by others, or by the individual himself.

One glaring trait is the lack of expectations being placed on certain individuals, due to mental and/or physical incapacity, age, poor resources, etc…
However, when a group of individuals are in no way incapacitated, and yet are not held accountable for their thoughts/words/actions, simply by virtue of their biological identity, this is a recipe for long-term dearth of progress.
One such example, is the absence of acountability in a formidable segment of society; women.
Needless to say, we are equal in God’s eyes, in capacity and attainment, and are not to be held back, or discriminated against as a consequence of our race, gender, age, or nationality. This equality is,nevertheless, one of capacity and attainment, (as Abdu’l-Baha states), and not an equality of function. We are different. Equal does NOT mean identical.
One of the greatest enemies in  outwardly achieving, and expressing fully this equality is the lowered standards upon womankind as a whol, by society as a whole.
  Strangely enough, from the moment a female child is born, until she is a senior citizen, excuses are made on her behalf, as to why she should NOT step up and why it is okay if she fails. This lack of accountability is an enemy to female progress, just as brutally as downright active discrimination is.
If a female toddler trips and falls, she is ”nursed like a princess” for little more than a grazed knee, when she hits puberty, she is not held accountable for being irresponsible due to ”hormones”, should she be going through her menstrual cycle, it is deemed alright, and wrongfully so, for her to act unreasonably since she has ”hormones”, if she gets engaged, and is soon to be a bride, it is her ”prerogative” to be ”crazy” and when she is pregnant, it is also seen as okay due to ..well…”hormones”, and when she hits menopause, she is equally unaccountable for repulsive words and behaviour due to ”hormonal changes”. At every stage, from the cradle to the grave, she is not held accountable, and this kills any chance of proper progress, character building, responsibility, accountability, and true equality. Note that while hormones do have a powerful effect on everyone, they are never to be used as excuses for justification of unruly activity, as we are expected to rise above and go beyond our nature. Same way a man is not allowed violence or infidelity (which also involve hormones) a woman is not allowed the aforementioned either. Alas, lowered standards, and the first sufferers thereof are women themselves.
As Jong said (herself a woman), ”Women are the only exploited group in history to have been idealized into powerlessness.”
IDEALIZED into powerlessness. For a porcelain trophy on the top shelf is practically useless, and cannot take care of itself, let alone another. This is what lowered standards does and is still doing to womankind as a whole.
If the same stringent standards to which most men are held were held to women-get up and dust your pants if you fall, failure is not to be had (even though it might be the easiest, most available and readily accessible option!), even though aggression is MORE rooted in your DNA as a male, still you are to curb it, for ”hormones” or circumstantial issues are never an excuse, etc…- womankind would progress even further than it already has. The same ardour used to reward and praise females, must be applied with punishment: female paedophiles, violent offenders, child-neglecting female parents, all deserve as much retribution as their male counterparts, and this is not the case in general.
Without wishing to pontificate, (believe it or not),keypoint: men would have it no other way. We love these lofty standards to which we are being held, we love being ”thrown to the wolves” from birth to death. This is how growth occurs; through the fire of trials gold is purified. The point here is, this furnace of purification must needs be extended to all branches, all segments of society, especially women, since they are a major segment thereof, and the first educators of humanity.
Inadequate fathers and mothers, and hapless people will be a thing of the past with the proper (moral) education of females, who are the mothers of tomorrow.
There are exceptions, and there are groups of people in every facet of society who are held accountable and those who are not. The same could be said about certain racial minorities, who are ”idealised” into helplessness, or certain age-groups, nationalities, etc..
But, due to the importance of women in society, and due to the fact that they are NOT a minority, it is more important to address the great expectations that can, should and will rest upon them.
Then and only then, when they are held brutally accountable as men are, and like to be, (worthy ones) shall we see true equality manifested.
With great power (and equality) comes great (and equal) responsibility (and accountability)…